Value Parenting

Parenting by Modeling. Be the person you want your children to grow up to be.

Your values matter. Use your values to raise caring, responsible, resilient and intelligent children.

Value parenting is a parenting approach based on Values that you as parents hold most dear. Value parenting is thus a universal approach because parents from any nationality, background or society can adopt the approach and orient it around what its core values are.

Values are principles or standards of behaviour that you deem important in life. To talk about values is to talk about what kind of person you want your child to be.

For a parent, it’s important that their children understand what is good and what are the long-term consequences of their actions. Children need to develop an intuition for the good and to value this goodness over immediate experience.

An idealist value-based mind has a clear understanding of the immediate and long-term good and chooses to do the right thing rather than the most convenient or advantageous thing. This may require one to go through hardships and inconvenience in the short run, and be mocked by many sometimes but he or she chooses what’s good in the long term.

A child brought up with an idealist mindset will seek a cure and not a fix, a solution, not a workaround, a confrontation, not a retreat, strength and not sympathy, respect and not praise, responsibilities not tasks, career not jobs, joy not just fun, journey and not ride.

• From Spectator to Participant: Why Playing a Game Beats Watching It
  I have seen first-hand the frustration and heartbreak that a billion people experienced when India lost the Cricket World Cup finals yesterday to Australia, despite being unbeaten in all the previous games. All the wishes, cheering, prayers and tears amounted to nothing. That can hurt and haunt people for a long time. I even watched my daughter cry. (Hence this post).
• Arrogance in Relationships
  In the delicate dance of love and companionship, one factor that can be incredibly detrimental to a relationship is arrogance. … More
• Of Pretend Play & Fiction Writing
  In the second year of life, children start pretending with simple acts, like pretending to sip imaginary milk from an … More
• Why Second Marriages can fail faster
  Second marriages, like first marriages, can fail for a variety of reasons. Here are some common factors that contribute to … More
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  Teaching a teenager to share
  Caring and sharing are both important values that contribute to healthy relationships and a sense of community. They complement each … More
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  How parents can prioritize their time
  As parents, we want to take up the responsibility of raising our children entirely. But many of us think this … More
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  Questions to uncover your Personal Well-being Recipe
  What is human flourishing and what enables it? Dr. Seligman’s PERMA™ theory of well-being is an attempt to answer these … More
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  Emotional needs of children as they grow
  Statistics show that 50% of mental health problems are established by age 14 and 75% by age 24. It is … More
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  Launching your Child
  I had given an overview of a family lifecycle in a blog post previously. On this post I diving deeper … More
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  Tracking Moral Development of Children
  Moral development is the process through which children develop proper attitudes and behaviours toward other people in society, based on … More
• Value Parenting a Child’s Mind
  The Oxford dictionary defines parenting as the process of caring for your child or children. Parenting is usually seen as … More
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  Outgrowing the Parenting Instinct
  One of human life’s greatest joys is to become a parent. The sheer happiness of holding your child first time … More
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  Is Meat right for Children?
  In this post, I express my stand on the topic based on my own experience. My intention here is not … More
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  Infuse light into Children’s minds
  Children are beings of light. They are embodiments of what is called in Vedanta, jñāna-śaktiḥ, the power of knowledge. They … More
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  Non-violent Ways of Disciplining Children
  This post can be treated as a continuation of two previous posts- one on violent discipline and another on rights … More
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  Knowing Children’s Rights
  As grownups, adults I am sure most of us are aware of our rights- how we like to be treated, … More
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  It is Wrong to Hit Children. Period.
  One of the biggest evils plaguing the lives of the children of the world today is violent discipline practices. Spanking, … More
• Seeing Family Life as a Life Cycle
  Everything that lives follows a lifecycle. I learnt recently how even our family lives trace a lifecycle. A family life … More
• Parenting, Religion and Atheism
  All of us have experienced and seen the security and comfort a child derives while being in the company of … More
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  Why We Need to Understand and Teach Healthy Nationalism
  One of my favourite writers Jared Diamond, Professor of Geography at the University of California, LA says that asking whether … More
• How to Create a Nourishing Space for Children to Learn and Grow
  One of the most beautiful gifts that Goa (on the West coast of India) bestows on its inhabitants is space- … More

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